Remembering Skyler

Our son Skyler was an individual who LOVED all who he came in contact with; well let’s keep this real ~ he loved most all he came in contact with. He enjoyed and found peace in the solace of the outdoors ~ He couldn’t find it in himself to realize that he could love himself no matter what, that he could make poor choices and still have individual worth.

Skyler’s choices led him to die by suicide. Skyler didn’t choose to look past the fact that sometimes things just aren’t gonna work out the way he had intended, and that there are consequences for our weaknesses and choices, that we choose to embrace in life. ​Life is a journey ~ every step of the journey is the journey. His journey should not have ended March 31, 2018.

There isn’t a day that goes by that we don’t miss our son and his place in our family structure here on earth~ we’re having to learn a new normal. We couldn’t, nor could he, have ever imagined the emptiness that we feel after his decision. We yearn to talk embrace and console the pains with Skyler. We all face addictions. Everyone of us. We all have hiccups that we need to kick out of our lives.

Suicide is a very serious reality… that affects all who are left to face this…the unfortunate untimely event, affects EVERYONE who loves the individual who left us behind. Mental Health is worth all of our attention. What is Mental Health one would ask?
It’s taking what we have been given in this life in the form of our MIND and BODY and recognizing our strengths and weaknesses, somehow finding it in us to be the best we can be. We ALL have our own best. Best comes in just as many forms as do the sands of the sea. First and foremost we need to understand what LOVE is. Love is patient; it is kind. Love for all the many gifts, given to each of us. Most especially the gift of life.

In the Bible we are taught to love thy God with all the heart and with all thy soul and with all thy mind. And second is to LOVE thy neighbor as THY SELF.
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Learning along the way to love yourself just as much as God and our neighbors can be a trick, can’t it?

~ I had a friend tell me once the negative feelings I was having towards myself was offensive to God, who had created me.
It has made me often wonder; if I really was offending God. But I guess if I created something and the individual receiving it just picked it apart ~ misused it, hated it ~ there’s a good possibility I too might be offended.

LOVEYOURSELF, has taken on a whole new meaning after my son died. I experience inadequate feelings as do each of you everyday. Just like Skyler did.

What do we do with these feelings?
We make honest attempts on a daily basis to improve who we’re looking at in the mirror.